Pledge to Unity

Our main company, Tan Weddings & Events posted this beautiful blog post. Wedwordy supports peaceful efforts in bringing the change we want to see, to make a difference, to bring unity, justice, and equality. Here is their blog post in its entirety:

Our development as humans relies on the building blocks of self-worth, self-esteem, and self-identity. We all yearn for the most fundamental need of human beings – to love and be loved. We can go so far as to claim it as a right of every one of us on earth. Sadly, some of us have lost our way, choosing to violate those rights – through actions that chip away at another’s self-worth, self-esteem, and self-identity.

As individuals in this staggeringly challenging time, we all hope to course correct lost souls, to bring peace to our global communities where human rights violations are rampant, to speak out against tragedies as a result of the historical and ongoing legacy of racial injustice and gender-based violence in the United States, to dismantle broken systems and rebuild a more enlightened society, to make a difference. Making a difference means each of us has a voice, the freedom to choose a path towards peace and unity for all. Some do it on a personal level – from conversations with your children during dinner to rising up as a charismatic voice for the people. Others may choose to use their businesses as a forum to effect change. Giant, billion dollar corporations such as Amazon can do it on a massive scale, where their message can be heard by a multitude of people.

Can a small, minority-owned business such as ours make an impact? Absolutely!

When we got married 26 years ago, we felt blessed for the warmth and openness we received from our families – it was about love, no matter our different faiths or color of our skin. Since then, as owners of Tan Weddings & Events, we have been committed to serving “all faiths, all cultures, and all partnerships”. It is our humble way of making an impact.

Through our service as officiants and planners of weddings, we are proponents of unity, equality, and diversity. We are in a unique position to bring people of all color and cultures together in a joyful experience to celebrate and uphold the most fundamental of human needs – to love and be loved.

Sadly, human rights get buried in politics, where we end up divided, choosing sides. There are no sides when we choose peace for all – it is at the core. It is at the core of what we all want for our global society. It is at the core of the Black Lives Matter movement. We stand with the Black community against hate. We will continue to model equality and unity in our professional setting as well as foster these values in our personal lives. We just want what all of us have a right to – to love and be loved.

In our ongoing commitment to uphold unity, equality, diversity, and peace, we pledge the following:

  • To listen and understand: We welcome feedback and ideas from our past, current and potential clients so that we may grow and fully support our never-ending goals of providing events for couples of all backgrounds, ethnicities, faiths, and sexual orientation.
  • To communicate openly: We are committed to providing more communication with our team, our clients, event industry vendors, and our entire community with empathy, understanding, and real, intentional support.
  • To be held accountable: We have an Inclusion Specialist and are expanding that role to keep us accountable.  This part of our team will empower the diverse voices among our employees  to provide insight, guidance, and accountability in addressing the topics of diversity and equality.
  • To analyze: We have been studying our mission statement, business goals, social media, publicity, and contract language to ensure that we are clear throughout our words, photos and videos about who we are and what we support.
  • To share: We have been developing an inclusion training over the past months and are committed now, more than ever, to training and developing our team, and reaching out to the event industry as a whole. Online and in-person workshops will be offered by our Inclusion Specialist to event industry businesses and leaders. This training goes beyond a request for inclusion — it demands that we recognize our privilege and complicity, challenge biases and microaggressions, understand the history of oppression, and explore how we as professionals, business owners, and individuals can contribute to long lasting change.
  • To learn: We are committed to continually analyzing our processes, and elevating our standards. We make this commitment to ourselves, to our community, and to our industry. We promise to be vigilant in this work, and to be present and aware of how our actions and movements reflect these efforts.

Change takes time, learning and growing takes time. We are continually, day to day, reflecting inward and assessing our thoughts, words, and deeds, striving to become better people. If we all acknowledge that we have a lot of work to do, and that we have to do it with the core values of peace and unity, we can begin to heal. We look to the future – a world that fully, wholly, and joyfully celebrates our differences and sameness, and it begins now. Love and be loved – it’s our right.

Rick and Jennifer Tan
co-owners, Tan Weddings & Events
​Photo Credit | Jodee Debes Photography

Five Qualities of Extraordinary Wedding Vendors

There are five qualities to look for in your dream team of wedding vendors by Wedwordy and Tan Weddings & Events.

Wedwordy teamed up with Tan Weddings & Events to acknowledge wedding vendors that we have had the pleasure to work with. They are some of northern California’s best, earning rave reviews from clients and other vendors, and awards in their respective fields. What are the qualities that make them so awesome? Here are five criteria that you can look for as you assemble your dream team of wedding creatives:


Whether communications with other vendors or contracts with the client, the wedding vendor maintains a high level of professionalism from start to finish. (An extraordinary vendor will know the work does not end with the final dance!) Emails, texts, and phone calls are done in a timely and efficient manner. Expectations and objectives are communicated, confirmed, and delivered. Their tools of the trade are up-to-date, appropo, and on-trend (like planning, design, and invoicing software, photo/video equipment, rentals, and even company attire on site). They are accountable for their work product and hold themselves and their staff to the highest standards.


Think of a symphony. Each musician is a virtuoso on their instrument. Together, music happens when there is a precisely timed, finely-tuned rhythm and harmony. There is the exacting execution of the written notes, and the inspired spontaneity that comes from listening and adjusting to one another. A wedding production is like a symphony, or for our sports-minded friends, like a team. It takes a group of wedding professionals to bring the wedding to life. It takes collaboration to highlight each other’s strengths. It takes a mix of humility, agility, and flair. Bottom line, extraordinary vendors work together in support of the couple’s vision.


The wedding vendor should be passionate about their work, verging on obsession, just short of a neurosis! That’s when the work transcends work, it becomes a mission of the heart and art. It’s when their eye is seeing something more than the average human being, and hearing the words “that’s good enough” is a war-cry to go further, to be better, to triumph over mediocrity! Wedding creatives become extraordinary wedding creatives because they aim for something more in their service or product. Their soul infuses each flower, napkin fold, playlist, and ceremony word. These are the people you want to create your wedding celebration, and the people we want in our band!


Like Shrek, humans have layers. Underneath the professional, the teammate, the artist is the human being. It is this person that ultimately you, the client, will connect with. The extraordinary wedding vendor is only as good as the person underneath. Are they someone warm, funny, caring, understanding, genuine? You’re not going to marry your vendor, but at least during the preparations and the wedding day, you’ll know them fairly intimately! It is important that you make a connection with your wedding vendor. It should be someone who understands your vision and your personality because everyone needs people that get them – whether you’re an ogre, donkey, or human.


Your wedding budget is finite. You want to make every dollar count, you want to optimize your wedding investment value. Clearly, your goal should not be to find the cheapest or the most extravagantly priced vendors. Hire an experienced wedding planner like Tan Weddings & Events who can guide you in matching your budget to your vision. Or do a bit of research. Reach out to your prospective vendors. Generally, it is not good practice in the industry to negotiate down their pricing. It means they will need to cut corners, whether it is staffing or less flowers, for instance. Instead, prioritize what’s most important to you and spend the money where it counts, securing the vendor who is right for your wallet.

If you are planning a wedding in northern California, check out Tan Weddings & Events’ website for a list of their Preferred Vendors!

Photo Credit | Ron Tan Photography