Top Ten Questions to Ponder Before Writing Your Wedding Script

A bride after her wedding ceremony at Park Winters, California.

So you’re almost ready to use Wedwordy in writing your wedding ceremony script! To help guide you, here are some prompts for you to reflect on.

Top Ten Questions to Ponder Before Writing Your Wedding Script

  1. How do you define your relationship? Choose readings, reflections, and wording that reflect your personalities and your ideals about married life. Wedwordy has several passages to choose from in all the elements that would resonate best with you, such as in Poems & Readings, Reflections, and even the Exchange of Vows.
  2. Where are you in the spectrum of traditional to contemporary? Wedwordy gives you the opportunity to choose passages that lean towards traditional such as the reading from Corinthians “Love is patient and kind…” or to contemporary such as the Key to Love “The key to love is respect…” and to mix-and-match to give your script just the right flavor!
  3. Is your faith central to your beliefs in guiding your marriage? Starting with Wedwordy templates such as Christian, Secular, Catholic, among other faiths, give you a starting point that honors your faith, and from there, you can tailor to your personal beliefs as a couple.
  4. Is your cultural background important for you to honor? There are unity rituals that are cultural-based in Wedwordy, such as the ritual of the cord/lasso, or stomping of the glass that you can add to your script.
  5. Are there any family expectations you feel need to be met? Often, couples find it a challenge to create a ceremony that reflects them and honors family at the same time! With Wedwordy, since you are able to mix-and-match elements that pull from tradition, faith, culture, poems, contemporary, and also add original external content, you can carefully harmonize wording that appeases and appeals to invested family!
  6. How comfortable are you in being the center of attention? Wedwordy gives you an estimate of the length of the ceremony, and allows you to choose elements where you have more to say, or less to say, depending on your comfort level.
  7. Would you like to share your story, personal vows? You know your guests better than anyone, so would sharing the story of how you met, or exchanging your written vows, be fun to include in your ceremony? In Wedwordy, when you choose the element “Story | Admiration”, you can give a space in the ceremony to allow your officiant to write a narrative about how you met and fell in love!
  8. Will you have friends/family participate in the wedding ceremony? In Wedwordy, there is an interactive “Shout Out” that allows your guests to respond with a resounding “I will!” to a series of questions lending their support, or perhaps honor a family member or friend by having them do any of the 20 readings and prayers available in Wedwordy.
  9. Will you translate the words, or some of the words, to another language? If you will be translating your script, or portions of the script, to another language for your officiant, keep in mind how that will flow in your ceremony, and how that might adjust the length of the ceremony as well.
  10. What do you want your gathered guests to remember most about your ceremony? Lastly, this is a good question to consider. This may help shape the flow of your wedding ceremony script. Consider what the highlights of the ceremony will be – a reading, your personal vows, a unity ritual, and consider the overall mood – light, traditional, fun.

Photo Credit | Nick Graham Photography

Pro Tips on Running a Wedding Ceremony Rehearsal

Conducting a wedding ceremony rehearsal is not as challenging as you might think, if you know the basic logistics of a wedding ceremony. Tan Weddings & Events and Wedwordy teamed up to produce a short 3 minute video of a wedding rehearsal for our friends Briana and Jonathan. The video depicts the couple’s partnership, personality, and family circle. Tailor the ceremony to what suits you and your partner, and your vision.

Here are a few highlight tips of running a rehearsal:

  1. Start with the ceremony line-up, so the facilitator can see who is in the Wedding Party, the honored family members, and + one’s who wanted to tag along!
  2. The Wedding party should be shoulder to shoulder, slightly angled, no sun glasses, no gum, and no locking the knees.
  3. The couple stands facing each other, hand-in-hand, throughout the ceremony.
  4. Next practice the Recessional (the exit), beginning with the newlyweds, then the Wedding Party starting closest to the couple, then parents and grandparets as applicable.
  5. End the rehearsal by practicing the Processional (the entrance).
  6. If possible, have witnesses sign the marriage license with the officiant/coordinator facilitating. It is one less think to worry about on the wedding day!

Enjoy the video!

A Spiritual Blessing Connects the Newlyweds to Nature

From the Blessings & Prayers element in Wedwordy, Gwen and Jay selected a Buddhist prayer that resonated with them. The couple had come from Oregon to exchange their vows at Drake’s Beach at Point Reyes National Seashore along the northern California coast. Though the couple may have hoped for some California sun, they were met with gentle rain, mist, cloudy skies, and wind! The weather only heightened the mood of reverence and spirituality for the couple’s intimate wedding ceremony. Reverend Rick Tan of Tan Weddings & Events presided the couple’s exchange of vows as family and friends huddled together to witness the magnificence of nature and a couple’s love!

Here is the Buddhist blessing, one of several passages available in Wedwordy!

Love people in their humblest human strivings,
for that is the semblance of Divine Love and is the highest love on earth.
Love all of Nature’s creation, the whole and every grain of sand of it.
Love every leaf, every ray of light.
Love the animals, love the plants, love everything.
If you love everything, you will perceive the divine mystery in things.
Once you perceive it, you will begin to comprehend it better every day.
You will come to understand that both of you are in all things.
Therefore, it is wise and fruitful to take in the whole world
With an all-embracing love.

And here is the Wedwordy promotional video produced by Rick Tan!

Words by Wedwordy, Wedding by Tan Weddings & Events, Love by Sara and Gabe

The recently married Sarah and Gabe embracing during their wedding day at The Maples in Woodland, California

We love hearing about happy newlyweds who used Wedwordy to compose their wedding words and enjoyed a wonderful ceremony, but we can’t take all the credit.  To make the entire celebration memorable and meaningful, it takes the concerted efforts of top notch wedding creatives. Our sister company Tan Weddings & Events hosts some of the most extraordinary weddings in the northern California area, and they work with other amazing wedding specialists in the region to bring a couple’s vision to life.

Sara and Gabe enjoyed a beautiful evening at The Maples in Woodland, CA, surrounded by family and friends. Their ceremony words reflected their love as a couple. Using Wedwordy, they customized their script with the addition of a wine letterbox ceremony, and by choosing to share personal vows. The ceremony was followed by cocktails and refreshments, then a dinner reception at this sprawling ranch estate.

A memorable gathering. Forever words of commitment and enduring adoration. Love and friendship. Wedwordy is honored to be a part of it!

Photography | Kaitlynn Tucker Photography
Coordination | Tan Weddings & Events
Venue & Bar | The Maples Wedding & Event Center
Florals | Camino Flower Shop
DJ & Lighting | A&A Music Events
Food | Sac Tacos
Catering Assistance | Gesche’s Gourmet
Cake | Zest Fresh Pastry West
Rentals & Linens | Celebrations! Party Rentals & Tents
Officiant | Tanner Vinson
Dress | Mafalda’s Bridal & Tuxedo

 

What’s Your Story?

Custom "story" section added to a wedding script, where an engaged couple can add a story of how they met

Every couple has a wonderful story of how they became a couple! A random evening at a restaurant bar. Undergrads at a party. Highschool sweethearts. Online dating. A young woman in a Little Mermaid costume stranded by the side of the road and rescued by a friend of a friend (a fun story shared by Tan Weddings & Events)!

In the wedding ceremony script, let your guests in to the funny, intimate, and sweet story of how the two of you met. Use Wedwordy to create your custom wedding ceremony script. Simply go to the Elements Library and add the element “STORY | ADMIRE” to your ceremony sequence. Typically, it flows well when placed just after the Greeting.

Provide your officiant with the following information so they can draft a 2-3 minute narrative of your story:

  1. When and where did the two of you meet?
  2. What were the circumstances at the time?
  3. What attracted you to each other?
  4. What were the first words spoken between you?
  5. When did you start dating?
  6. When did you fall in love?
  7. What qualities do you admire and adore in each other?
  8. What do you enjoy doing together?
  9. What do you look forward to in married life?

If you give your officiant access to your Wedwordy account, they can compose the script for you, including writing your story, or you can do it yourself! Your guests will love, love, love getting a peek into the beginning of your journey as a couple, and it makes the wedding day so meaningful.

Photo Credit | Valley Images Photography

Wedwordy and Your Romantic Elopement

Happy married couple after their elopement created quickly by the Wedwordy web app

The elopement trend has captured the hearts of many young couples wishing for something more than a courthouse exchange of “I do’s” and less than the overwhelming prospect of a big wedding production. Couples want something in between – romantic, memorable, meaningful – shared with just a few close family and friends.

Wedwordy is perfect for an elopement! The Web app makes it convenient to compose meaningful and personal wedding words in a relatively short time, which meets the “spur of the moment” energy of an elopement. Composing ceremony words with Wedwordy begins with choosing one of eight templates (Christian, Secular, Filipino/Latino, Short & Sweet, Spiritual, Catholic, Vow Renewal, and Custom). Except for custom, the other seven contain pre-selected passages. If the couple chooses to keep the passages, they can simply save, share, and print, and voila! a complete wedding ceremony script!

What’s fabulous about Wedwordy is that all the templates have ceremony elements that can be re-arranged, and the pre-set passages can be completely edited or switched out for other passage options! So, it is both convenient and customizable. And because the Web app can be used anywhere and printed anywhere, destination couples can begin their Wedwordy script at home, complete it at their bed and breakfast, and have their officiant print it for the wedding.

Photo Credit | Holly D Photography

Helpful Advice from Pro Officiants

Wedding officiant posing with a couple during a rehearsal for their marriage ceremony

Officiants of Tan Weddings & Events have collectively officiated over 1500 beautiful weddings! From their experience, they share a few gems that will make your wedding ceremony sparkle and shine!

Secure Your Officiant, Like NOW!

If you are hiring a pro officiant, don’t procrastinate! The best ones book really fasy, especially during the peak wedding season. Also, not waiting until the last moment gives the officiant ample time to get to know you and compose words with you.

Use Wedwordy to Compose Your Script.

Whether your officiant is a pro or a friend you’ve tapped, you can use Wedwordy to compose your custom wedding ceremony script. You might want to write the script entirely on your own, or collaborate with your officiant. Either way, Wedwordy gives you the balance of convenience and personalization. Go with a template with pre-set elements and passages, if the script suits your needs. Or create a completely custom ceremony. Or blend it, and make it your own. Wedwordy gives you peace of mind with a complete, formatted ceremony, ready for your big day!

Rehearse, But Don’t Stress if the Ceremony Does Not Go Exactly As Planned.

Your coordinator, independent or venue, will often facilitate it. It’s not always easy to have every member of the wedding party present, so you can ask accompanying friends and family to serve as proxy. Have fun with the rehearsal! The main components are figuring out the processional order, the ceremony formation, and the recessional. Talk to your Wedding party about NOT chewing gum, or wearing sunglasses! Coordinate the height of bouquets, and where hands are during the ceremony. Determine who will have the rings. If being given away, choreograph with your escort! If on the wedding day, your coordinator can get guests seated, your Wedding Party lined up, bouquets and bouts ready, rings ready – then you’re good to go! Don’t sweat the details, and certainly don’t worry if your Flower Girl dumps all the petals in one pile on the aisle – it makes the wedding day just that much more memorable and genuine!

Hold Hands, Gaze Lovingly!

Throughout the ceremony, hold each other’s hands and look at one another. Smile. Squeeze or stroke each other’s hands to let your partner know you both got this! Holding hands keeps you at a nice, intimate distance for your photographers, for mics to pick up your vows, and for your officiant to be close and personal.

Your Officiant Should Step Aside for the Kiss.

Unless you want your officiant to be awkwardly gawking above you during your newlywed kiss, you should advise your officiant to step to one side (of course, if your officiant is a pro, they already know this). Your officiant will feel more confortable, and the pictures will look much classier.

Breathe. Soak in the Love!

It’s hard not to care for your own health and sanity during the week before the wedding. Make yourself the priority – not selfish at all – just know your vendors got your back, and your friends and family are rooting for you! Catch your breath. Hydrate. Eat. Sleep well. Open yourself to positive energy flowing your way.

Photo Credit | En Pointe Photography

Blessings and Prayers for the Marriage Journey

A young couple walking in The Maples in Woodland, California about to begin their journey of Marriage

In a wedding ceremony, you can choose to add a blessing, prayer, reading, or poem. Penned by famous and less well-known authors, religious leaders or inspired artists, these literary passages give a grounding force to your ceremony script. Here is an excerpt from “Blessings for the Journey” by Buddhist Wendy Nakao. It is very special to Wedwordy and to couples who choose to add it to their ceremony. Sensei Wendy was so gracious in permitting its use in our app – we owe her deep gratitude for sharing such beautiful words with us. To select it in Wedwordy, go to the Element “Blessings & Prayers”. It is number 10 of 14 available passages.

“Let us vow to bear witness to the wholeness of life,
realizing the completeness of each and every thing.
Embracing our differences,
I shall know myself as you,
and you as myself.
May we serve each other
for all our days,
here, there, and everywhere.”

 

Photo Credit | Nick Graham Photography

Wherever Inspiration Takes Hold, Be Ready to Write

A couple uses their smartphone to edit their wedding script via Wedwordy, the wedding app

Composing the wedding ceremony script is often not a one-shot start to finish task.  And like any creative endeavor, you can’t force it to happen by sitting at your desktop at home. Getting those meaningful words on (digital) paper takes time and patience and flexibilty.  Inspiration strikes anytime, anywhere. So wouldn’t it be great to have Wedwordy?

Having a Web-based app to compose your wedding ceremony words is gold! Wherever you have access to the Internet, you have access to Wedwordy, whether it be your desktop, laptop, iPad, or smart phone. Once you create an account, you can begin your first draft and work on it all at once, or a little at a time. The file is automatically saved as an “in progress” draft as you continue to select passages, edit, write, revise, and refine.

Wedwordy knows: meaningful words are sparked by meaningful interaction. Start at home. Resume at the park. Finish at a romantic getaway. So when inspiration takes hold of the writer in you, Wedwordy is your virtual pen and paper.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Photo Credit | Holly D Photography

In Your Ceremony, Share the Story of How You Met

A man and women walking down the aisle at an outdoor wedding ceremony

Every couple has a uniqe story of how they met and fell in love! Share yours in your ceremony to give it added intimacy, personality, and humor. Your guests will love it. Here’s how with Wedwordy.

Select the element “Story | Admire”

In your ceremony sequence called the “Elements Flow” in Wedwordy, add “Story | Admire” from the Elements Library.

Place it in your Elements Flow

A great place to tell your story in the ceremony is after the Greeting, when your officiant has welcomed the guests. In Wedwordy, simply drag the element Story | Admire to the position below Greeting in the Elements Flow page, and Save Draft.

Select the passage “Story of How We Met”

When you click on the element Story | Admire, it opens two passages you can choose from. Click on the passage “Story of How We Met”.

Respond to the prompts

Read and reflect on the prompts and you can start typing in your responses to help you organize your thoughts. You might decide that this is the section of your ceremony you will hand off to your officiant to draft your story. In which case, simply give your officiant access your draft or you can paste it in after he or she has written it. Here are the prompts:

  1. When, where, and how did the two of you meet?
  2. What attracted you to each other?
  3. When did you begin dating officially?
  4. When would you say you fell in love?
  5. When did you become engaged?
  6. What qualities do you admire in each other?
  7. What do you enjoy doing together?
  8. What do you look forward to in your married life?

Draft your story

From your responses, you or your officiant can begin drafting your story. It may undergo some revisions and refinements. If your officiant wrote it, you should review it and be clear that he or she follow the script (if you want to avoid the unexpected sharing of too-personal information!).

Here is a finished story!

Borrowed from our friends at Tan Weddings & Events, here is a story the officiant wrote for the couple. (The names have been changed.)

 

In a restaurant bar with billiards, one would expect to hear patrons enjoying meals and playing pool. However, on an evening in March of 2015, the clack of balls bouncing from a pool table onto the floor, followed by hysterical laughter, would draw some attention. Honing in on the mildly annoying cackle, Michael was amused to see a beautiful young woman with a pool cue! It was Lauren, who was there on the invitation by her potential employer. She noticed Michael staring at her half annoyed and half intrigued!

Despite her lack of pool skills, Lauren got the job and by July, had moved to San Francisco to begin work at the firm, where Michael was as a designer. They introduced themselves to each other, and sat in adjacent desks. Lauren and Michael discovered how much they enjoyed conversations with each other. They talked about favorite TV shows, and places to eat in San Francisco. After work, genuinely concerned for her safety, Michael would escort her home, leaving her to her routine of staying in and binging on How I Met Your Mother. Michael did his best to convince her to get out more and explore the City.

On a company outing, a co-worker blurted out to Lauren, “You should totally marry Michael!” Lauren responded, “Are you joking!?” Michael was within earshot and feigned disinterest.

With those words planted in each of their minds, the two spent more time together at work and friendly conversations became intimate. One evening in October, Micahel was determined to kiss Lauren. He also had been thinking of quitting his job, so if Lauren rejected his advances, he would simply leave work the next day to avoid the awkwardness. Well, luckily they kissed, and he kept his job.

The couple began dating, spending every moment together. Lauren eventually left her apartment since she hadn’t even used her keys for the past two months! She moved in with Michael on Valentine’s Day of 2016!

Their friendship and romance has grown. They enjoy time at the beach, obsessed with brunch and snorkeling, and driving up and down the coast just to talk for hours. They travel far to beautiful tropical locales, and near to the neighborhood diner every weekend for breakfast and coffee.

The couple shares a mutual admiration. Lauren says this of Michael, “Michael gets stuff done, he is obsessed with efficiency and optimizing things; he really, really cares about doing things the right way; he’s extremely empathetic, and he is the absolute most hilarious and ridiculous person I’ve ever met.”

Michael, in turn, admires Lauren for the following, “Her ability to be the very best at anything she takes on – she used to be the absolute most terribly worst cook on the planet; her love of spreadsheets, which maximizes every experience; how she makes me feel like the funniest person on the planet; and Lauren inspires me to have the confidence we will be happy together forever.”

On that evening of March 2015, for Lauren who did not show much proficiency with billiards, she landed the one perfect shot in her corner pocket – Michael!

 

Photo Credit | Nick Graham Photography