Choosing a Meaningful Unity Ritual

A couple during their wedding ceremony engaging in a unity ritua

Your declaration of intent, exchange of vows, and giving of rings are the heart of the wedding ceremony. So why choose to add a unity ritual? Consider your faith, culture, and personal/couple preferences when deciding to incorporate one, or not.

The minimum requirement of the ceremony to be “official” is the declaration of intent – legally, both parties have to freely and willingly express their intent, the “I do!” From there, traditionally, the promises you make to one another, and the giving of rings mark the agreement as sealed. Though the wedding is centered on the two of you, it is also an event witnessed by a gathering of family, friends, and your community of people. With that said, other elements in a wedding ceremony that honor their presence or bow to your heritage are also significanct, namely a unity ritual.

Unity rituals are expressions of, well, unity. Lighting of the unity candle, mixing of sand, planting a sapling tree, tying a knot, fastening of the cord, to name a few. Each are rooted in faith or culture. For instance, the veil and cord are popular among Filipino and Latino cultures. The veil symbolizes the woven fabric of heaven and earth, protecting the newlyweds in God’s graces and their mutual support. The cord symbolizes infinity, strands braided from the faith, hope, and dreams of the community.

Engaged couples often consider adding a unity ritual as a way to honor their faith or cultural backgrounds. As more marriages are being performed outside of a church, couples who grew up in strict religious households often find themselves referencing their faith with an abridged version of rituals. Others are pulled by strong cultural ties, while others still are simply excited about the novelty of a particular unity ritual. Whatever the motivation, the most important question to ask yourself is: How is it meaningful to me and to my partner?

All the words of the wedding ceremony are what will take you from the day of your wedding into the joyful lifetime of marriage. You want the words to represent you, your beliefs, your ideals, your commitment and love. So consider a unity ritual for its faith, social, and cultural significance, and then decide to include it when your heart says it is meaningful to YOU.

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The Unity Rituals Element is available in Wedwordy, where there are 10 different passages to choose from. The passages include beautiful wording of instruction and symbolism to make it flow seamlessly in your wedding ceremony. They are fully editable, so refine the words, or write/add your own meaningful gesture of unity.

Photo by Nick Graham Photography

Sassy to Sincere , Be You with Your Personal Vows

A bride crying as her groom reads his personal wedding vows

Exchanging vows in your wedding ceremony represents the spoken promises of your commitment to one another. But, if the traditional “for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health” do not reflect the promises you want to make to your partner, opt to write your own personal vows. Exciting, yet scary! Here is how to overcome those initial fears and build the confidence to share your promises with authenticity, valor, and eloquence!

The three challenges of personal vows are: 1) being authentic in your feelings, 2) writing with some literary merit, and 3) speaking eloquently publicly. Hopefully, that did not scare you away and make you decide to default back to traditional vows! If you are determined to continue on, here are some encouraging words and guidelines to help you with your personal vows.

Being authentic in your feelings is the reason you want to do personal vows in the first place! So regard the endeavor not as a challenging hurdle, rather as a refreshing shot to be YOU, to express the excitement you have of your partner. Using whatever medium is best for you to take notes, jot down answers to the following prompts (let it flow, don’t be shy, refrain from editing – for now):

  1. What attracted you to your partner?
  2. What qualities do you admire and adore in your partner? Give examples.
  3. Write down a memorable moment or two – funny, goofy, mind-blowing, serious – that the two of you shared while dating.
  4. What made you fall in love with your partner?
  5. In your vision of married life, what do you see the two of you doing 5 years from the wedding? 25 years?

Your answers, if you were honest with yourself, represent YOU! What you have are the genuine feelings you have of your partner, AND some useful material for your personal vows! Now, make a list of your vows and promises. Again, do not edit at this stage. Do not hold back! Begin each with “I promise to” or “I vow to”.  It can be as corny as, “I promise to be the Belle to your Beast,” or sassy like, “I vow to always root for your team, even though I don’t think they stand a chance,” or sincere, “I promise that I will always love you, care for you, champion you as my dearest friend and partner.”

Writing with some literary merit sounds a bit too proper and stodgy, especially if you say it with a British accent! Don’t worry, your high school English teacher will not be grading your written personal vows, unless your sweetheart is a high school English teacher! Even then, be unfazed with the writing step. Do you recall some lesson from school about writing a paragraph? It was something about organizing sentences this way: the first a hook, the second states your topic, the next 2-3 present evidence, and the last sums it up. Writing your personal vows follows a similar structure.

Organize your responses to the above prompts like this:

  1. The “hook”: retell your memorable couple moment, perhaps your first meeting or first date
  2. The “topic”: state why you love your partner and share what you admire in this person
  3. The “evidence”: here, list your vows and promises
  4. The “summary”: end with a final statement of your adoration and what you look forward to in marriage.

The number of sentences, of course, does not matter. And grammar, spelling, and punctuation are not the priority here. Follow some level of organization, such as suggested with the paragraph structure, though you have total and complete freedom to do it your way! Use your notes above. Make a draft. And another. Revise, refine it – but don’t get hung up on aiming for a Pulitzer prize-winning composition. Write it in a style and voice that suit you best. This is what makes the personal vows authentic and genuine.

Speaking eloquently publicly is the last challenge of choosing personal vows. Some people become super nervous when speaking in front of crowds while others thrive on being the center of attention! Some break into gibberish while others are natural story-tellers. No worries. Sharing your personal vows at your wedding is different from being on stage, at a podium, or in the spotlight.

You are not addressing an audience, you are speaking to ONLY ONE person in that moment: YOUR PARTNER. Well, there just happens to be seated folks nearby! But you know what? Those folks are not there to judge nor to grade your performance, they are actually doing the opposite: they are sending you positive energy, love and support. They are there to relish the sound of your voice and give you strength as you profess your love.  Give yourself ample time to practice your personal vows in private. Time your recitation, aim for somewhere around 1 – 3 minutes. Edit your writing if you need to. Practice your soliloquy in a volume and speed you will use at the wedding venue.

Print your personal vows or write in a vow booklet. When the wedding day arrives, don’t forget it back at home or your hotel room, else you’ll be winging it! Prior to the start of the ceremony, you may want to hand your vows to your officiant to have ready in a binder to give back to you for the exchange of vows. And when in the ceremony it is time to express your eternal promises, take a deep breath, have your hankie ready, and just be YOU.

(A little caveat from Tan Weddings & Events, officiants who have performed over 1000+ weddings: personal vows are not private vows, meaning, your friends and family on both sides are present to hear every word you say. Though you may be sassy by nature, avoid the path of full-blown sarcasm! You know, like, “I really hate how messy you are, but, what the heck, I promise to pick up after you!” And being sincere does not mean seriously depressing, like, “We’ve seen our fair share of arguments over the years and I gave up on you once or twice, but so glad we’re best friends now.” Keep those comments private between you and yours. Your wedding day is a celebration!)

 


In composing your wedding ceremony with Wedwordy, in the element Exchange of Vows, choose the passage “Sharing Personal Vows.” You can also choose several other passages of traditional or contemporary vows prompted by your officiant – we got your back!

Photo by Nick Graham Photography

What New Adventures Will You Embark On in 2018?

A colorful arrangement of flowers

You wake from winter’s rest, stretch out your limbs, and invite the sun’s rays to warm your face. You have a decision to make – sink back into bed, or tackle the day with a spirited charge of, “Let’s do this!” You go for the latter. After all, it’s a new year, and with a new year comes the promise of new beginnings and adventures.

Along with your daily everyday activities, you have a wedding to plan! This thought may have you diving back into the covers, but you are not that person! You are courageous, bold, and determined. You are motivated by the notion that 2018 is handing you a fresh canvas upon which your creative genius will make something great happen. Whatever it is that you want to accomplish, whatever task, adventure, and quest you are beginning, know that you have it in you to do it.

In the words of Nellie Bly, a young woman who pioneered investigative journalism in the late 1880s, “If you want to do it, you can do it. The question is, do you want to do it?”

When your creative genius is sparked into action by your heart, you’ve got an unstoppable force propelling you forward. Let your vision and creativity guide you. Blossom. Be true to yourself, challenge yourself, strive for better. Surround yourself with positive people – this is also very important. Creativity comes from within, but the encouragement we long for often comes from those we trust and love. And find the right tools for the task at hand – a paintbrush for a quick DIY project, your most stunning outfit for the interview, or Wedwordy to compose your wedding ceremony words (just a tiny, appropriately-placed product promotion).

Whether you are preparing for a wedding, deepening relationships, renewing previous tasks, or beginning new endeavors — from Wedwordy, Happy New Adventures in 2018!

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Disrupt the Status Quo

A couple holding hands during a tradition-breaking wedding ceremony written by Wedwordy

When it comes to creating your wedding words, you want the freedom and flexibility to make it yours.  In 2018, you have a partner (aside from your own adorable partner) in disrupting the status quo: Wedwordy.

Currently, creating wedding ceremony words is a painstaking, tedious process. A multitude of wedding websites make an effort in posting their favorite scripts and ceremony words on your behalf. However, sifting through all that involves numerous Internet searches and, in the end, you will have spent oodles of time cutting and pasting bits and pieces of wedding words, or relinquishing your freedom to have your officiant instead do that work for you. With Wedwordy, you do not need to sacrifice time or freedom.

Wedwordy has pioneered a dynamic app to make creating your ceremony words both convenient and custom. Stress-reducing and time-saving! It is a Web application designed to be an effective solution in delivering high-value features: templates to get you started, elements that can be arranged, omitted, or added to your ceremony, and fully editable and curated passages. In one app, you compose your personalized wedding ceremony, from the processional to the pronouncement!

Is Wedwordy for everybody? No. Is Wedwordy for the engaged couple who wants the freedom and flexibility to create wedding ceremony words your way? Yes!

The time has come to disrupt the status quo. It is time for Wedwordy.

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Beyond the Wedding Ceremony Script

Do a search on “wedding ceremony scripts” and you will see a list of sites with links to other sites that will link you to blog posts by planners and officiants who have posted excerpts of weddings, ideas for unity rituals, and sample wording. A painful process, and with luck and perseverance, you may actually yield a wedding ceremony script!

Now click once into Wedwordy, and voila! You are in the only Web app you need to create your wedding ceremony! With templates and pre-selected passages, you can conveniently print your ceremony in minutes. Or take the time to personalize your wedding ceremony by availing of the app’s full editing features.

Wedwordy eliminates time-consuming Internet searches for wedding words AND takes you beyond the wedding ceremony script. Wedwordy offers you convenience and customization. The wedding ceremony script gets upgraded.

Perseverance is admirable when courting your partner; you should not need it when trying to personalize your wedding ceremony words!

Make it yours [painlessly] with Wedwordy.

Your One and Only

Kyle and Julie walking in full wedding attire as bride and groom after a their ceremony

Your one and only love is your partner. Your one and only wedding ceremony app is Wedwordy! When you have found the precious person whom you will share the rest of your life with, you want your wedding words to express just how fortunate and happy you are. You want to share your unique and special relationship, your devotion and joy. With Wedwordy, you can do this in one, easy to use Web app.

Creating your personalized wedding ceremony words should not deflate the joy of getting married. Do an Internet search on “ceremony builder”, “wedding script, or “ideas for wedding ceremony words”. You will get a smattering of sites from wedding planners offering advice on how find tidbits of wedding words to well-meaning officiants giving you examples of ceremony wording they have used. Then you will need to stitch together these different sources to assemble a wedding ceremony draft, which may or may not flow as well as you would like, or more distressing, be missing significant pieces. The inconvenience and hassle of Internet searches, along with the limitations of personalization, quickly kills the mood!

To keep the joy alive, Wedwordy offers a simple solution. Put the versatility of convenience and customization into one wedding ceremony app . The key is in the trio of Templates, Elements, and Passages – the heart and soul of Wedwordy!

TEMPLATES

You begin composing your wedding ceremony by choosing one of eight Templates: Non-Religious, Christian, Spiritual, Catholic, Filipino/Latino, Short & Sweet, and Vow Renewal. These have pre-selected Elements and Passages, so should you view the draft ( with your names already formatted in from your Profile) and love it as is, just Save, Share, and Print! You can, of course, fully edit these Templates, and along with the Custom Ceremony Template, choose to completely personalize your wedding ceremony words.

ELEMENTS

These are the different sections of a wedding ceremony. In Wedwordy, there are sixteen Elements! Announcement, Processional, Escort’s Salutation, Greeting, Reflections on Love, Our Story, Blessings & Prayers, Poems & Readings, Unity Rituals, Gratitude Rituals, Shout Out, Declaration of Intent, Exchange of Vows, Giving of Rings, Officiant’s Charge, and Pronouncement. In the Templates, they are arranged in a traditional sequence, but you can rearrange, omit, and add Elements as you wish.

PASSAGES

The Passages are the content of the wedding ceremony. Each Element has several Passages for you to choose from. These have been curated by Wedwordy to represent a range of preferences that are culturally, spiritually, and gender diverse. Select a Passage that best resonates with you. And when you want to add further personalization, you can edit the Passages or write or paste your own custom content.

In your home or on a weekend getaway, just log in to your Wedwordy account, and together with your partner, compose the perfect, most meaningful wedding ceremony! You and your partner promise a lifetime of happiness. Wedwordy promises a wedding ceremony to get you there.

Make It Yours

A recently married couple in front of a house after a wedding ceremony

There are many apps available to help you with your dream wedding. You can get inspired on Carats & Cake, choose your venue and vendors in WeddingWire, organize your reception with AislePlanner, and so much more. But there is one app devoted to your wedding ceremony – Wedwordy.

The words shared by your officiant in your wedding ceremony speak about love and marriage. They include your declaration of intent to marry and your vows of everlasting faith and friendship. Without a doubt, the wedding ceremony is the most meaningful part of the day’s celebration. Sure, your guests may want to get to the catered meal, cake, and dancing, but your family and friends want to witness the two of you saying your “I do’s”, exchanging your promises, and kissing as newlyweds!

Wedwordy is the only Web-based app that offers you complete control of the wedding ceremony words, so you can make it meaningful. With elegant and simple-to-use navigation, you can easily choose a template with pre-set passages, view the draft, save, share, and print it – a ceremony ready for your officiant! Or you can create a custom ceremony by assembling ceremony elements, selecting passages, and editing every word for a complete, personalized wedding ceremony.

It is time to let go of the time-consuming and un-fun methods of scouring the Internet for bits of passages, finding a few templates, downloading “personalized” ceremonies by officiants, or using sites with clunky script generators. Only Wedwordy gives you the versatility of both time-saving convenience and thoughtful and fun customization.

For the most meaningful part of the wedding day, choose Wedwordy. Make it yours!

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What is Wedwordy?

Kyle and Julie, bride and groom, laughing during their wedding meal

Newly engaged and madly in love, you dream of a wedding day that is memorable and meaningful, a personal expression of commitment, love and devotion. Beyond “I do”, you want every word expressed at the ceremony to be just as significant. You want the words to reflect your unique personality as a couple. You want it to be about the two of you. With Wedwordy, the world’s premiere wedding ceremony composer app, you can make it yours!

As the trend continues towards weddings that embrace cultural, spiritual, and gender diversity, engaged couples are discovering that there is freedom in how the ceremony words are expressed. A few may attempt to write their own ceremony words from a blank slate. Others will sift through online sources, typing in keywords, copying and pasting, stitching together their ceremony. Some may find an officiant who will write it for them or assemble a ceremony from weddings they have performed. All well-meaning.

However, finding the officiant with the right resources to create a custom ceremony for you is rare, and pouring through a variety of printed and digital sources or writing your wedding words from scratch is daunting, especially when the checklist of wedding preparations is mounting!

Wedwordy is a versatile, convenient, easy-to-use app that offers you the freedom of creating your own wedding ceremony. With Templates, Elements, and a variety of Passages, Wedwordy is your tool to craft a beautiful, personalized wedding ceremony. Select the Elements and Passages you want, edit and write as you please. Simply open a Wedwordy account, fill out your Profile, create your ceremony with Composer, then Save, Share, and Print!

Wedwordy.  Your wedding ceremony app.

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