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Wedwordy on Wedding Chicks

Wedding Chicks is nearing 2 million followers on FaceBook, so you can understand our extreme elation as featured guests! The online uber wedding resource provides couples with lots and lots of inspiration for their wedding day. We are excited to know their readership will learn more about Wedwordy, as it has much to offer in composing personalized wedding words from the processional to the pronouncement. Engagement season is here, and couples will want to know they have an app that will help them with writing their wedding ceremony script!

Check out Wedwordy on Wedding Chicks: Write Your Own Ceremony with Wedwordy. The post has a bit of background info about the app, three sample scripts generated and personalized from the app, and a list of helpful advice for starting your wedding ceremony words.

Photo Credit | Nicole Sepulveda-Smith, XSiGHT

Top Ten Questions to Ponder Before Writing Your Wedding Script

So you’re almost ready to use Wedwordy in writing your wedding ceremony script! To help guide you, here are some prompts for you to reflect on.

Top Ten Questions to Ponder Before Writing Your Wedding Script

  1. How do you define your relationship? Choose readings, reflections, and wording that reflect your personalities and your ideals about married life. Wedwordy has several passages to choose from in all the elements that would resonate best with you, such as in Poems & Readings, Reflections, and even the Exchange of Vows.
  2. Where are you in the spectrum of traditional to contemporary? Wedwordy gives you the opportunity to choose passages that lean towards traditional such as the reading from Corinthians “Love is patient and kind…” or to contemporary such as the Key to Love “The key to love is respect…” and to mix-and-match to give your script just the right flavor!
  3. Is your faith central to your beliefs in guiding your marriage? Starting with Wedwordy templates such as Christian, Secular, Catholic, among other faiths, give you a starting point that honors your faith, and from there, you can tailor to your personal beliefs as a couple.
  4. Is your cultural background important for you to honor? There are unity rituals that are cultural-based in Wedwordy, such as the ritual of the cord/lasso, or stomping of the glass that you can add to your script.
  5. Are there any family expectations you feel need to be met? Often, couples find it a challenge to create a ceremony that reflects them and honors family at the same time! With Wedwordy, since you are able to mix-and-match elements that pull from tradition, faith, culture, poems, contemporary, and also add original external content, you can carefully harmonize wording that appeases and appeals to invested family!
  6. How comfortable are you in being the center of attention? Wedwordy gives you an estimate of the length of the ceremony, and allows you to choose elements where you have more to say, or less to say, depending on your comfort level.
  7. Would you like to share your story, personal vows? You know your guests better than anyone, so would sharing the story of how you met, or exchanging your written vows, be fun to include in your ceremony? In Wedwordy, when you choose the element “Story | Admiration”, you can give a space in the ceremony to allow your officiant to write a narrative about how you met and fell in love!
  8. Will you have friends/family participate in the wedding ceremony? In Wedwordy, there is an interactive “Shout Out” that allows your guests to respond with a resounding “I will!” to a series of questions lending their support, or perhaps honor a family member or friend by having them do any of the 20 readings and prayers available in Wedwordy.
  9. Will you translate the words, or some of the words, to another language? If you will be translating your script, or portions of the script, to another language for your officiant, keep in mind how that will flow in your ceremony, and how that might adjust the length of the ceremony as well.
  10. What do you want your gathered guests to remember most about your ceremony? Lastly, this is a good question to consider. This may help shape the flow of your wedding ceremony script. Consider what the highlights of the ceremony will be – a reading, your personal vows, a unity ritual, and consider the overall mood – light, traditional, fun.

Photo Credit | Nick Graham Photography

Words by Wedwordy, Wedding by Tan Weddings & Events, Love by Sara and Gabe

We love hearing about happy newlyweds who used Wedwordy to compose their wedding words and enjoyed a wonderful ceremony, but we can’t take all the credit.  To make the entire celebration memorable and meaningful, it takes the concerted efforts of top notch wedding creatives. Our sister company Tan Weddings & Events hosts some of the most extraordinary weddings in the northern California area, and they work with other amazing wedding specialists in the region to bring a couple’s vision to life.

Sara and Gabe enjoyed a beautiful evening at The Maples in Woodland, CA, surrounded by family and friends. Their ceremony words reflected their love as a couple. Using Wedwordy, they customized their script with the addition of a wine letterbox ceremony, and by choosing to share personal vows. The ceremony was followed by cocktails and refreshments, then a dinner reception at this sprawling ranch estate.

A memorable gathering. Forever words of commitment and enduring adoration. Love and friendship. Wedwordy is honored to be a part of it!

Photography | Kaitlynn Tucker Photography
Coordination | Tan Weddings & Events
Venue & Bar | The Maples Wedding & Event Center
Florals | Camino Flower Shop
DJ & Lighting | A&A Music Events
Food | Sac Tacos
Catering Assistance | Gesche’s Gourmet
Cake | Zest Fresh Pastry West
Rentals & Linens | Celebrations! Party Rentals & Tents
Officiant | Tanner Vinson
Dress | Mafalda’s Bridal & Tuxedo

 

Wedwordy and Your Romantic Elopement

The elopement trend has captured the hearts of many young couples wishing for something more than a courthouse exchange of “I do’s” and less than the overwhelming prospect of a big wedding production. Couples want something in between – romantic, memorable, meaningful – shared with just a few close family and friends.

Wedwordy is perfect for an elopement! The Web app makes it convenient to compose meaningful and personal wedding words in a relatively short time, which meets the “spur of the moment” energy of an elopement. Composing ceremony words with Wedwordy begins with choosing one of eight templates (Christian, Secular, Filipino/Latino, Short & Sweet, Spiritual, Catholic, Vow Renewal, and Custom). Except for custom, the other seven contain pre-selected passages. If the couple chooses to keep the passages, they can simply save, share, and print, and voila! a complete wedding ceremony script!

What’s fabulous about Wedwordy is that all the templates have ceremony elements that can be re-arranged, and the pre-set passages can be completely edited or switched out for other passage options! So, it is both convenient and customizable. And because the Web app can be used anywhere and printed anywhere, destination couples can begin their Wedwordy script at home, complete it at their bed and breakfast, and have their officiant print it for the wedding.

Photo Credit | Holly D Photography

Helpful Advice from Pro Officiants

Officiants of Tan Weddings & Events have collectively officiated over 1500 beautiful weddings! From their experience, they share a few gems that will make your wedding ceremony sparkle and shine!

Secure Your Officiant, Like NOW!

If you are hiring a pro officiant, don’t procrastinate! The best ones book really fasy, especially during the peak wedding season. Also, not waiting until the last moment gives the officiant ample time to get to know you and compose words with you.

Use Wedwordy to Compose Your Script.

Whether your officiant is a pro or a friend you’ve tapped, you can use Wedwordy to compose your custom wedding ceremony script. You might want to write the script entirely on your own, or collaborate with your officiant. Either way, Wedwordy gives you the balance of convenience and personalization. Go with a template with pre-set elements and passages, if the script suits your needs. Or create a completely custom ceremony. Or blend it, and make it your own. Wedwordy gives you peace of mind with a complete, formatted ceremony, ready for your big day!

Rehearse, But Don’t Stress if the Ceremony Does Not Go Exactly As Planned.

Your coordinator, independent or venue, will often facilitate it. It’s not always easy to have every member of the wedding party present, so you can ask accompanying friends and family to serve as proxy. Have fun with the rehearsal! The main components are figuring out the processional order, the ceremony formation, and the recessional. Talk to your Wedding party about NOT chewing gum, or wearing sunglasses! Coordinate the height of bouquets, and where hands are during the ceremony. Determine who will have the rings. If being given away, choreograph with your escort! If on the wedding day, your coordinator can get guests seated, your Wedding Party lined up, bouquets and bouts ready, rings ready – then you’re good to go! Don’t sweat the details, and certainly don’t worry if your Flower Girl dumps all the petals in one pile on the aisle – it makes the wedding day just that much more memorable and genuine!

Hold Hands, Gaze Lovingly!

Throughout the ceremony, hold each other’s hands and look at one another. Smile. Squeeze or stroke each other’s hands to let your partner know you both got this! Holding hands keeps you at a nice, intimate distance for your photographers, for mics to pick up your vows, and for your officiant to be close and personal.

Your Officiant Should Step Aside for the Kiss.

Unless you want your officiant to be awkwardly gawking above you during your newlywed kiss, you should advise your officiant to step to one side (of course, if your officiant is a pro, they already know this). Your officiant will feel more confortable, and the pictures will look much classier.

Breathe. Soak in the Love!

It’s hard not to care for your own health and sanity during the week before the wedding. Make yourself the priority – not selfish at all – just know your vendors got your back, and your friends and family are rooting for you! Catch your breath. Hydrate. Eat. Sleep well. Open yourself to positive energy flowing your way.

Photo Credit | En Pointe Photography

Wherever Inspiration Takes Hold, Be Ready to Write

Composing the wedding ceremony script is often not a one-shot start to finish task.  And like any creative endeavor, you can’t force it to happen by sitting at your desktop at home. Getting those meaningful words on (digital) paper takes time and patience and flexibilty.  Inspiration strikes anytime, anywhere. So wouldn’t it be great to have Wedwordy?

Having a Web-based app to compose your wedding ceremony words is gold! Wherever you have access to the Internet, you have access to Wedwordy, whether it be your desktop, laptop, iPad, or smart phone. Once you create an account, you can begin your first draft and work on it all at once, or a little at a time. The file is automatically saved as an “in progress” draft as you continue to select passages, edit, write, revise, and refine.

Wedwordy knows: meaningful words are sparked by meaningful interaction. Start at home. Resume at the park. Finish at a romantic getaway. So when inspiration takes hold of the writer in you, Wedwordy is your virtual pen and paper.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Photo Credit | Holly D Photography

Sassy to Sincere , Be You with Your Personal Vows

Exchanging vows in your wedding ceremony represents the spoken promises of your commitment to one another. But, if the traditional “for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health” do not reflect the promises you want to make to your partner, opt to write your own personal vows. Exciting, yet scary! Here is how to overcome those initial fears and build the confidence to share your promises with authenticity, valor, and eloquence!

The three challenges of personal vows are: 1) being authentic in your feelings, 2) writing with some literary merit, and 3) speaking eloquently publicly. Hopefully, that did not scare you away and make you decide to default back to traditional vows! If you are determined to continue on, here are some encouraging words and guidelines to help you with your personal vows.

Being authentic in your feelings is the reason you want to do personal vows in the first place! So regard the endeavor not as a challenging hurdle, rather as a refreshing shot to be YOU, to express the excitement you have of your partner. Using whatever medium is best for you to take notes, jot down answers to the following prompts (let it flow, don’t be shy, refrain from editing – for now):

  1. What attracted you to your partner?
  2. What qualities do you admire and adore in your partner? Give examples.
  3. Write down a memorable moment or two – funny, goofy, mind-blowing, serious – that the two of you shared while dating.
  4. What made you fall in love with your partner?
  5. In your vision of married life, what do you see the two of you doing 5 years from the wedding? 25 years?

Your answers, if you were honest with yourself, represent YOU! What you have are the genuine feelings you have of your partner, AND some useful material for your personal vows! Now, make a list of your vows and promises. Again, do not edit at this stage. Do not hold back! Begin each with “I promise to” or “I vow to”.  It can be as corny as, “I promise to be the Belle to your Beast,” or sassy like, “I vow to always root for your team, even though I don’t think they stand a chance,” or sincere, “I promise that I will always love you, care for you, champion you as my dearest friend and partner.”

Writing with some literary merit sounds a bit too proper and stodgy, especially if you say it with a British accent! Don’t worry, your high school English teacher will not be grading your written personal vows, unless your sweetheart is a high school English teacher! Even then, be unfazed with the writing step. Do you recall some lesson from school about writing a paragraph? It was something about organizing sentences this way: the first a hook, the second states your topic, the next 2-3 present evidence, and the last sums it up. Writing your personal vows follows a similar structure.

Organize your responses to the above prompts like this:

  1. The “hook”: retell your memorable couple moment, perhaps your first meeting or first date
  2. The “topic”: state why you love your partner and share what you admire in this person
  3. The “evidence”: here, list your vows and promises
  4. The “summary”: end with a final statement of your adoration and what you look forward to in marriage.

The number of sentences, of course, does not matter. And grammar, spelling, and punctuation are not the priority here. Follow some level of organization, such as suggested with the paragraph structure, though you have total and complete freedom to do it your way! Use your notes above. Make a draft. And another. Revise, refine it – but don’t get hung up on aiming for a Pulitzer prize-winning composition. Write it in a style and voice that suit you best. This is what makes the personal vows authentic and genuine.

Speaking eloquently publicly is the last challenge of choosing personal vows. Some people become super nervous when speaking in front of crowds while others thrive on being the center of attention! Some break into gibberish while others are natural story-tellers. No worries. Sharing your personal vows at your wedding is different from being on stage, at a podium, or in the spotlight.

You are not addressing an audience, you are speaking to ONLY ONE person in that moment: YOUR PARTNER. Well, there just happens to be seated folks nearby! But you know what? Those folks are not there to judge nor to grade your performance, they are actually doing the opposite: they are sending you positive energy, love and support. They are there to relish the sound of your voice and give you strength as you profess your love.  Give yourself ample time to practice your personal vows in private. Time your recitation, aim for somewhere around 1 – 3 minutes. Edit your writing if you need to. Practice your soliloquy in a volume and speed you will use at the wedding venue.

Print your personal vows or write in a vow booklet. When the wedding day arrives, don’t forget it back at home or your hotel room, else you’ll be winging it! Prior to the start of the ceremony, you may want to hand your vows to your officiant to have ready in a binder to give back to you for the exchange of vows. And when in the ceremony it is time to express your eternal promises, take a deep breath, have your hankie ready, and just be YOU.

(A little caveat from Tan Weddings & Events, officiants who have performed over 1000+ weddings: personal vows are not private vows, meaning, your friends and family on both sides are present to hear every word you say. Though you may be sassy by nature, avoid the path of full-blown sarcasm! You know, like, “I really hate how messy you are, but, what the heck, I promise to pick up after you!” And being sincere does not mean seriously depressing, like, “We’ve seen our fair share of arguments over the years and I gave up on you once or twice, but so glad we’re best friends now.” Keep those comments private between you and yours. Your wedding day is a celebration!)

 


In composing your wedding ceremony with Wedwordy, in the element Exchange of Vows, choose the passage “Sharing Personal Vows.” You can also choose several other passages of traditional or contemporary vows prompted by your officiant – we got your back!

Photo by Nick Graham Photography