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Wedwordy and Your Romantic Elopement

Happy married couple after their elopement created quickly by the Wedwordy web app

The elopement trend has captured the hearts of many young couples wishing for something more than a courthouse exchange of “I do’s” and less than the overwhelming prospect of a big wedding production. Couples want something in between – romantic, memorable, meaningful – shared with just a few close family and friends.

Wedwordy is perfect for an elopement! The Web app makes it convenient to compose meaningful and personal wedding words in a relatively short time, which meets the “spur of the moment” energy of an elopement. Composing ceremony words with Wedwordy begins with choosing one of eight templates (Christian, Secular, Filipino/Latino, Short & Sweet, Spiritual, Catholic, Vow Renewal, and Custom). Except for custom, the other seven contain pre-selected passages. If the couple chooses to keep the passages, they can simply save, share, and print, and voila! a complete wedding ceremony script!

What’s fabulous about Wedwordy is that all the templates have ceremony elements that can be re-arranged, and the pre-set passages can be completely edited or switched out for other passage options! So, it is both convenient and customizable. And because the Web app can be used anywhere and printed anywhere, destination couples can begin their Wedwordy script at home, complete it at their bed and breakfast, and have their officiant print it for the wedding.

Photo Credit | Holly D Photography

Helpful Advice from Pro Officiants

Wedding officiant posing with a couple during a rehearsal for their marriage ceremony

Officiants of Tan Weddings & Events have collectively officiated over 1500 beautiful weddings! From their experience, they share a few gems that will make your wedding ceremony sparkle and shine!

Secure Your Officiant, Like NOW!

If you are hiring a pro officiant, don’t procrastinate! The best ones book really fasy, especially during the peak wedding season. Also, not waiting until the last moment gives the officiant ample time to get to know you and compose words with you.

Use Wedwordy to Compose Your Script.

Whether your officiant is a pro or a friend you’ve tapped, you can use Wedwordy to compose your custom wedding ceremony script. You might want to write the script entirely on your own, or collaborate with your officiant. Either way, Wedwordy gives you the balance of convenience and personalization. Go with a template with pre-set elements and passages, if the script suits your needs. Or create a completely custom ceremony. Or blend it, and make it your own. Wedwordy gives you peace of mind with a complete, formatted ceremony, ready for your big day!

Rehearse, But Don’t Stress if the Ceremony Does Not Go Exactly As Planned.

Your coordinator, independent or venue, will often facilitate it. It’s not always easy to have every member of the wedding party present, so you can ask accompanying friends and family to serve as proxy. Have fun with the rehearsal! The main components are figuring out the processional order, the ceremony formation, and the recessional. Talk to your Wedding party about NOT chewing gum, or wearing sunglasses! Coordinate the height of bouquets, and where hands are during the ceremony. Determine who will have the rings. If being given away, choreograph with your escort! If on the wedding day, your coordinator can get guests seated, your Wedding Party lined up, bouquets and bouts ready, rings ready – then you’re good to go! Don’t sweat the details, and certainly don’t worry if your Flower Girl dumps all the petals in one pile on the aisle – it makes the wedding day just that much more memorable and genuine!

Hold Hands, Gaze Lovingly!

Throughout the ceremony, hold each other’s hands and look at one another. Smile. Squeeze or stroke each other’s hands to let your partner know you both got this! Holding hands keeps you at a nice, intimate distance for your photographers, for mics to pick up your vows, and for your officiant to be close and personal.

Your Officiant Should Step Aside for the Kiss.

Unless you want your officiant to be awkwardly gawking above you during your newlywed kiss, you should advise your officiant to step to one side (of course, if your officiant is a pro, they already know this). Your officiant will feel more confortable, and the pictures will look much classier.

Breathe. Soak in the Love!

It’s hard not to care for your own health and sanity during the week before the wedding. Make yourself the priority – not selfish at all – just know your vendors got your back, and your friends and family are rooting for you! Catch your breath. Hydrate. Eat. Sleep well. Open yourself to positive energy flowing your way.

Photo Credit | En Pointe Photography

Blessings and Prayers for the Marriage Journey

A young couple walking in The Maples in Woodland, California about to begin their journey of Marriage

In a wedding ceremony, you can choose to add a blessing, prayer, reading, or poem. Penned by famous and less well-known authors, religious leaders or inspired artists, these literary passages give a grounding force to your ceremony script. Here is an excerpt from “Blessings for the Journey” by Buddhist Wendy Nakao. It is very special to Wedwordy and to couples who choose to add it to their ceremony. Sensei Wendy was so gracious in permitting its use in our app – we owe her deep gratitude for sharing such beautiful words with us. To select it in Wedwordy, go to the Element “Blessings & Prayers”. It is number 10 of 14 available passages.

“Let us vow to bear witness to the wholeness of life,
realizing the completeness of each and every thing.
Embracing our differences,
I shall know myself as you,
and you as myself.
May we serve each other
for all our days,
here, there, and everywhere.”

 

Photo Credit | Nick Graham Photography

Five Keys to a Healthy and Happy Marriage

There are five keys to a healthy and happy marriage: vitality, synergy, harmony, sustainability, and discovery. Read on and apply these morsels of wisdom to your relationship now! (You’ll find the complete passage in the element Reflections in our Wedwordy app.) 

First, as individuals, maintain a healthy level of vitality. Taking care of yourself is not a selfish endeavor. It is, in practice, selfless, where your personal wellness – mind, body, heart, and spirit – serves the relationship.

Second, embrace the synergy of your partnership, where both of you mutually give and receive. This constantly revolving mechanism of sharing, advocating, and encouraging provides the nourishment for both of you to grow together. So give passionately, receive joyfully.

Third, strive for harmony in your home. Marriage is like the music of a symphony – harmony is achieved when the musicians tune in to each other, they listen, they make adjustments. In your home, train yourselves to listen, to adjust, to complement one another.

Fourth, embrace deep, steady love. The spark of romance stokes the glowing, radiant, steady glow of true partnership. This is the fire that sustains deep devotion.

And finally, the fifth key is to relish the excitement of discovery. Each day is an opportunity for learning and growing. Embrace this notion and your life becomes a journey enriched by daily blessings.

Photo Credit | XSiGHT Photography

Wherever Inspiration Takes Hold, Be Ready to Write

A couple uses their smartphone to edit their wedding script via Wedwordy, the wedding app

Composing the wedding ceremony script is often not a one-shot start to finish task.  And like any creative endeavor, you can’t force it to happen by sitting at your desktop at home. Getting those meaningful words on (digital) paper takes time and patience and flexibilty.  Inspiration strikes anytime, anywhere. So wouldn’t it be great to have Wedwordy?

Having a Web-based app to compose your wedding ceremony words is gold! Wherever you have access to the Internet, you have access to Wedwordy, whether it be your desktop, laptop, iPad, or smart phone. Once you create an account, you can begin your first draft and work on it all at once, or a little at a time. The file is automatically saved as an “in progress” draft as you continue to select passages, edit, write, revise, and refine.

Wedwordy knows: meaningful words are sparked by meaningful interaction. Start at home. Resume at the park. Finish at a romantic getaway. So when inspiration takes hold of the writer in you, Wedwordy is your virtual pen and paper.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Photo Credit | Holly D Photography

In Your Ceremony, Share the Story of How You Met

A man and women walking down the aisle at an outdoor wedding ceremony

Every couple has a uniqe story of how they met and fell in love! Share yours in your ceremony to give it added intimacy, personality, and humor. Your guests will love it. Here’s how with Wedwordy.

Select the element “Story | Admire”

In your ceremony sequence called the “Elements Flow” in Wedwordy, add “Story | Admire” from the Elements Library.

Place it in your Elements Flow

A great place to tell your story in the ceremony is after the Greeting, when your officiant has welcomed the guests. In Wedwordy, simply drag the element Story | Admire to the position below Greeting in the Elements Flow page, and Save Draft.

Select the passage “Story of How We Met”

When you click on the element Story | Admire, it opens two passages you can choose from. Click on the passage “Story of How We Met”.

Respond to the prompts

Read and reflect on the prompts and you can start typing in your responses to help you organize your thoughts. You might decide that this is the section of your ceremony you will hand off to your officiant to draft your story. In which case, simply give your officiant access your draft or you can paste it in after he or she has written it. Here are the prompts:

  1. When, where, and how did the two of you meet?
  2. What attracted you to each other?
  3. When did you begin dating officially?
  4. When would you say you fell in love?
  5. When did you become engaged?
  6. What qualities do you admire in each other?
  7. What do you enjoy doing together?
  8. What do you look forward to in your married life?

Draft your story

From your responses, you or your officiant can begin drafting your story. It may undergo some revisions and refinements. If your officiant wrote it, you should review it and be clear that he or she follow the script (if you want to avoid the unexpected sharing of too-personal information!).

Here is a finished story!

Borrowed from our friends at Tan Weddings & Events, here is a story the officiant wrote for the couple. (The names have been changed.)

 

In a restaurant bar with billiards, one would expect to hear patrons enjoying meals and playing pool. However, on an evening in March of 2015, the clack of balls bouncing from a pool table onto the floor, followed by hysterical laughter, would draw some attention. Honing in on the mildly annoying cackle, Michael was amused to see a beautiful young woman with a pool cue! It was Lauren, who was there on the invitation by her potential employer. She noticed Michael staring at her half annoyed and half intrigued!

Despite her lack of pool skills, Lauren got the job and by July, had moved to San Francisco to begin work at the firm, where Michael was as a designer. They introduced themselves to each other, and sat in adjacent desks. Lauren and Michael discovered how much they enjoyed conversations with each other. They talked about favorite TV shows, and places to eat in San Francisco. After work, genuinely concerned for her safety, Michael would escort her home, leaving her to her routine of staying in and binging on How I Met Your Mother. Michael did his best to convince her to get out more and explore the City.

On a company outing, a co-worker blurted out to Lauren, “You should totally marry Michael!” Lauren responded, “Are you joking!?” Michael was within earshot and feigned disinterest.

With those words planted in each of their minds, the two spent more time together at work and friendly conversations became intimate. One evening in October, Micahel was determined to kiss Lauren. He also had been thinking of quitting his job, so if Lauren rejected his advances, he would simply leave work the next day to avoid the awkwardness. Well, luckily they kissed, and he kept his job.

The couple began dating, spending every moment together. Lauren eventually left her apartment since she hadn’t even used her keys for the past two months! She moved in with Michael on Valentine’s Day of 2016!

Their friendship and romance has grown. They enjoy time at the beach, obsessed with brunch and snorkeling, and driving up and down the coast just to talk for hours. They travel far to beautiful tropical locales, and near to the neighborhood diner every weekend for breakfast and coffee.

The couple shares a mutual admiration. Lauren says this of Michael, “Michael gets stuff done, he is obsessed with efficiency and optimizing things; he really, really cares about doing things the right way; he’s extremely empathetic, and he is the absolute most hilarious and ridiculous person I’ve ever met.”

Michael, in turn, admires Lauren for the following, “Her ability to be the very best at anything she takes on – she used to be the absolute most terribly worst cook on the planet; her love of spreadsheets, which maximizes every experience; how she makes me feel like the funniest person on the planet; and Lauren inspires me to have the confidence we will be happy together forever.”

On that evening of March 2015, for Lauren who did not show much proficiency with billiards, she landed the one perfect shot in her corner pocket – Michael!

 

Photo Credit | Nick Graham Photography

 

Create Your Ceremony with Wedwordy and Your Officiant

Officiant reading from a wedding ceremony script a man and his betrothed hold hands

With Wedwordy, creating your wedding script with your officiant has never been easier! Whether you have asked a friend or family member to officiate, or have hired a professional, you and your officiant can use Wedwordy as a collaboration tool to create the wedding ceremony script together. Here’s how.

SIGN UP

First, create your Wedwordy account. Just follow the prompts on the website.

SHARE

Share your username and password with your officiant. Both of you now have access to the app!

COMPOSE

To start composing your wedding ceremony script, you’ll first select a template. Then as you go through each of the elements of your ceremony, you’ll choose passages that best resonate with you. With some of the elements, you might use a “blank passage” to write your own or leave open for your officiant. The app auto-saves your work as an “In Progress” draft.

COLLABORATE

Direct your officiant to the “In Progress” draft in Wedwordy. Let them know what passages to edit and refine or to write completely. Being able to collaborate with your officiant is easy with Wedwordy. Allowing your officiant to write portions of the ceremony gives them an opportunity to impart it with a bit of their personality and speaking style. You might even have your officiant write the story of how you and your loved one met. How you and your officiant decide to work together will create the perfect wedding words!

SAVE AS DOCUMENT

When you have fine-tuned the draft, click on “Save As Document”. You now have your completed wedding ceremony script, ready to print for your big day!

 

Photo Credit | Holly D Photography

 

Honor Heritage with a Custom Unity Ritual

Serbian plum brandy, known as slivovica, to be shared for a custom wedding unity ritual that will honor the heritage of the families

In Serbia, the plum is the national fruit, and plum brandy, known as slivovica, is the national beverage. It is shared during gatherings to signify prosperity, health, and happiness. A couple came to Reverend Rick Tan of Tan Weddings & Events a few days before their wedding ceremony and wanted a way to honor the groom’s Serbian heritage.

After having collaborated on their wedding ceremony script together, Reverend Tan suggested incorporating slivovica as a unity ritual. The couple was elated! And when the couple had mentioned that the officiant often partook of a shot of the plum brandy with the couple, Reverend Tan was all in! He got to work on drafting words that would be well suited to the occasion while respecting the tradition.

In Wedwordy, to incorporate a Unity Ritual, add it from the Elements Library into your Elements Flow (the ceremony sequence). There are ten curated unity rituals in Wedwordy to choose from!  However, if you choose to add something entirely custom, simply use the “open” passage at the end of the list under Unity Rituals. When you or your officiant has drafted a unique, custom passage, click “Select” and it will be added to your ceremony draft as a Unity Ritual. You can put this Unity Ritual Element anywhere within your ceremony sequence. (BTW, each of the Elements contains an “open” passage for writing or pasting in your own, totally custom wording!)

With the plum brandy ritual, Reverend Tan had said in his ceremony, “There is a saying that the best place to build a home is where the plum tree grows.  Certainly, in sharing plum brandy today, the best place to build a life together is where this couple now shares slivovica! (Three shot glasses are raised.) May your life together be rich and fruitful in blessings! Ziveli! (The couple and the officiant drink the slivovica.)

It was a beautiful, meaningful addition to the couple’s wedding ceremony script. Though the groom reassured his officiant that the plum brandy was really smooth, Reverend Tan reported that 140 proof slivovica burned going down!

Ziveli! To health and happiness!

Writing the Wedding Ceremony Script

a happy couple on their wedding day after writing their own custom ceremony with the Wedwordy App

For engaged couples with a wedding day on the horizon, planning a wedding spurs emotions that run from elation to exasperation. You might be one of those couples. And it’s OK to feel the wide range of crazy in the months leading to the big day. Fortunately, there are online resources that will help tilt the emotional pendulum towards happy, from vendor directories to website builders to planning tools. With Wedwordy, writing your wedding ceremony script will put you in wedding bliss, not wedding blues!

To appreciate how Wedwordy serves you, compare these other ways to writing the wedding ceremony script.

If your wedding is presided by clergy of your church, your script will most likely follow a set format that aligns with the tenets of your faith. If you opt for a civil ceremony, as in marrying at the courthouse, you will have a standard script that meets minimum official requirements. These two ways obviously present the least personalization.

If you hire a professional officiant, they may pull material from both online and written libraries, and include some information from you to create a customized script. If you tap a friend to officiate, they might pull from online samples and even write their own, or decide to wing it during your ceremony! With these two alternatives, you will get a more personalized ceremony. Some officiants however may charge quite a premium for their customized ceremonies, as much as $700 or more! And with friends, you might get more personal material being expressed in front of your guests than you would have wanted divulged!

You might decide to DIY the script entirely on your own. You’ll scour the Internet for wedding ideas, lists, samples, passages from blog posts. Then you’ll copy and paste them into a Google or Word doc, then you’ll scroll through your pasted pieces, delete some, edit in your names, and format the document so it has a consistent and legible look for your officiant. And when you think you’re done, you might feel anxious not knowing if it contains all the parts it ought to have.

Now let’s look at the Wedwordy way.

Wedwordy is a Web based application designed to make the script writing experience thoughtful, creative, personal, and convenient. Here’s a metaphor. It is like craving a savory sandwich and going to your favorite gourmet deli for it. Displayed for you are all the freshest ingredients that combine together oh so well. You’ll qualify your options based on whether you are vegan, gluten-free, vegetarian, omnivore! You then select the buns, condiments, veggies, cheese, and meat for a complete, delectably tailored, mouth-watering sandwich. And if by chance you were also able to sprinkle in some custom spices, well, that would be Wedwordy!

Unlike a civil ceremony (eating a pre-packaged sandwich), or relying on a friend to write the ceremony (who knows where that sandwich came from?), or starting a ceremony from scratch (going up and down the aisles of a supermarket trying to figure out what goes into a sandwich), Wedwordy is the gourmet deli of wedding ceremony scripts! Wedwordy’s templates and ceremony elements offer just the right structure to confidently assemble a complete ceremony, and its fully editable passages give you infinite possibilities for total customization. Check out the Wedwordy app tutorial to see how you can compose your custom, complete wedding ceremony script effortlessly.

With the right online tools to prepare and plan, the right vendor team to execute your dream day, and the Wedwordy app to write a meaningful wedding ceremony script, you can aim for a savory and satisfying wedding celebration!

 

Photo Credit | Bloom Photography

 

Elements of a Wedding Ceremony

The Exchange of Vows and the Giving of Rings are examples. Here is a list of sixteen, and their brief descriptions, given in (loosely) sequential ceremony order.

 

ANNOUNCEMENT

Do you want an “unplugged ceremony” or maybe just a reminder about cell phone etiquette? As the guests are settling in to their seats, have your officiant make an announcement. It’s also a good opportunity to test amplification.

PROCESSIONAL

The entrance of the wedding party signals the beginning of the ceremony. Bridesmaids and groomsmen, parents, grandparents, godparents, sponsors, ring bearers, flower bearers, babies in wagons, pets – you decide the entrance order, it’s your (weddng) party!

GREETING

The officiant opens the celebration with introductions and welcomes. Nothing too wordy, just a warm and friendly embrace of family and friends and a thanks for joining the couple.

ESCORT’S SALUTATION

This is the age-old “giving away of the bride”. Many couples choose to include it, but if you prefer a modern take without the traditional connotations, the escort simply gets the honor of accompanying the honoree. Or don’t use it at all.

GRATITUDE RITUAL

You may want to acknowledge parents or other close member of the family with a gesture such as giving of a rose. This represents gratitude for modeling love, for the continued devotion and support of family.

THE COUPLE’S STORY

Sharing the story of how you became a couple is always a fun way to inject the ceremony with a bit of humor. A 2-3 minute story of the chance meeting, the embarrasing moment, the awkward silence, and how the romance blossomed enfolds the guests into your journey as a couple.

REFLECTIONS ON LOVE

What is love? What does commitment mean? Poignant words are given about love and devotion, marriage and commitment. Your officiant gets to be the esteemed counsel, passing on the wisdom of what makes a marriage endure and flourish.

POEMS & READINGS

Add a contemporary flair from famous works to reflect your love in poetic form, or those brilliant philosophical musings about how love is like a pebble or mushroom! If it resonates with you, include a reading or poem to give a literary edge to the ceremony. Maybe even ask a friend to read Shakespeare’s Sonnet #116.

SHOUT OUT

This is a fun, interactive moment when the officiant asks the gathered guests to respond with a loud “I WILL,” when asked if they will continue to support you throughout your marriage, to remain as a community of friends and family.

DECLARATION OF INTENT

Considered to be the most important and legally binding element in a ceremony, this is when the officiant asks the honorees to voluntarily and lucidly declare the intent to marry. Kinda important to know each of you freely choose to be married, and not coerced into it at knife point or royal decree, ala Game of Thrones.

EXCHANGE OF VOWS

Read your personal vows or repeate after the officiant, the exchange of vows are the promises you make to one another, to have and to hold, to honor and to cherish. Want to write your personal vows? Here’s how in Sassy to Sincere, Be You with Your Personal Vows.

GIVING OF RINGS

This ritual traditionally follows the exchange of vows to signify that the promises you made are now sealed. Its infinite circle symbolizes the endless promise of abiding love!

UNITY RITUALS

Cultural or faith based, you may choose to incorporate a unity ritual. Wedwordy has over 10 passages of unity rituals to select and add to your ceremony. Is it right for you? Read about it in Choosing a Meaningful Unity Ritual.

BLESSINGS & PRAYERS

Prayers from the Bible and a Buddhist sensei, blessings from Irish and native American cultures – these nod to your faith and beliefs, and honor family traditions. These passages may appear anywhere in your ceremony, and may even be given to a family member to read.

OFFICIANT’S CHARGE

The officiant gives a short message to the couple about going forth to married life, reminders and affirmations for the couple to ponder.

PRONOUNCEMENT

And finally, the wedding ceremony is concluded with the officiant pronouncing you as newlyweds, partners in life. You get to kiss – yay – count 1-kississippi, 2-kississippi, 3-kississippi in your head to give your photographer ample time to snap a photo and your guests to cheer!

 

Wedwordy makes ALL of these elements available to you in one place, one app. Wedwordy has several passages in each of these elements for you to select as written or edit as you wish. You may even write a completely new passage or paste your own treasured find. And you can omit, add, rearrange elements to fully customize your wedding ceremony script, completely.

 

Photo Credit | Bustle & Twine Photography