Pledge to Unity

Our main company, Tan Weddings & Events posted this beautiful blog post. Wedwordy supports peaceful efforts in bringing the change we want to see, to make a difference, to bring unity, justice, and equality. Here is their blog post in its entirety:

Our development as humans relies on the building blocks of self-worth, self-esteem, and self-identity. We all yearn for the most fundamental need of human beings – to love and be loved. We can go so far as to claim it as a right of every one of us on earth. Sadly, some of us have lost our way, choosing to violate those rights – through actions that chip away at another’s self-worth, self-esteem, and self-identity.

As individuals in this staggeringly challenging time, we all hope to course correct lost souls, to bring peace to our global communities where human rights violations are rampant, to speak out against tragedies as a result of the historical and ongoing legacy of racial injustice and gender-based violence in the United States, to dismantle broken systems and rebuild a more enlightened society, to make a difference. Making a difference means each of us has a voice, the freedom to choose a path towards peace and unity for all. Some do it on a personal level – from conversations with your children during dinner to rising up as a charismatic voice for the people. Others may choose to use their businesses as a forum to effect change. Giant, billion dollar corporations such as Amazon can do it on a massive scale, where their message can be heard by a multitude of people.

Can a small, minority-owned business such as ours make an impact? Absolutely!

When we got married 26 years ago, we felt blessed for the warmth and openness we received from our families – it was about love, no matter our different faiths or color of our skin. Since then, as owners of Tan Weddings & Events, we have been committed to serving “all faiths, all cultures, and all partnerships”. It is our humble way of making an impact.

Through our service as officiants and planners of weddings, we are proponents of unity, equality, and diversity. We are in a unique position to bring people of all color and cultures together in a joyful experience to celebrate and uphold the most fundamental of human needs – to love and be loved.

Sadly, human rights get buried in politics, where we end up divided, choosing sides. There are no sides when we choose peace for all – it is at the core. It is at the core of what we all want for our global society. It is at the core of the Black Lives Matter movement. We stand with the Black community against hate. We will continue to model equality and unity in our professional setting as well as foster these values in our personal lives. We just want what all of us have a right to – to love and be loved.

In our ongoing commitment to uphold unity, equality, diversity, and peace, we pledge the following:

  • To listen and understand: We welcome feedback and ideas from our past, current and potential clients so that we may grow and fully support our never-ending goals of providing events for couples of all backgrounds, ethnicities, faiths, and sexual orientation.
  • To communicate openly: We are committed to providing more communication with our team, our clients, event industry vendors, and our entire community with empathy, understanding, and real, intentional support.
  • To be held accountable: We have an Inclusion Specialist and are expanding that role to keep us accountable.  This part of our team will empower the diverse voices among our employees  to provide insight, guidance, and accountability in addressing the topics of diversity and equality.
  • To analyze: We have been studying our mission statement, business goals, social media, publicity, and contract language to ensure that we are clear throughout our words, photos and videos about who we are and what we support.
  • To share: We have been developing an inclusion training over the past months and are committed now, more than ever, to training and developing our team, and reaching out to the event industry as a whole. Online and in-person workshops will be offered by our Inclusion Specialist to event industry businesses and leaders. This training goes beyond a request for inclusion — it demands that we recognize our privilege and complicity, challenge biases and microaggressions, understand the history of oppression, and explore how we as professionals, business owners, and individuals can contribute to long lasting change.
  • To learn: We are committed to continually analyzing our processes, and elevating our standards. We make this commitment to ourselves, to our community, and to our industry. We promise to be vigilant in this work, and to be present and aware of how our actions and movements reflect these efforts.

Change takes time, learning and growing takes time. We are continually, day to day, reflecting inward and assessing our thoughts, words, and deeds, striving to become better people. If we all acknowledge that we have a lot of work to do, and that we have to do it with the core values of peace and unity, we can begin to heal. We look to the future – a world that fully, wholly, and joyfully celebrates our differences and sameness, and it begins now. Love and be loved – it’s our right.

Rick and Jennifer Tan
co-owners, Tan Weddings & Events
​Photo Credit | Jodee Debes Photography

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